Author: Dr. Rochel Marie Lawson
Let’s talk about a sneaky saboteur that keeps even the most ambitious women stuck:
Denial.
Not the “I didn’t do it” kind.
I’m talking about the subtle denial that whispers:
“I’m fine.”
“It’s not that bad.”
“I’ll deal with it later.”
“This is just how it is.”
Denial wears many disguises—overworking, toxic positivity, avoidance, fake confidence.
And left unchecked, it becomes a mindset trap that blocks healing, delays transformation, and drains your joy.
In Ayurveda, this kind of foggy, avoidant energy is rooted in a Vata imbalance—and there’s a beautiful way out.
Denial Through the Ayurvedic Lens
Vata dosha is composed of air and ether. It governs movement, creativity, thoughts, and the nervous system.
When balanced, Vata brings imagination, lightness, inspiration, and joy.
But when imbalanced, it creates:
- Confusion
- Disconnection from the body
- Overwhelm and “brain fog”
- Avoidance, indecision, and anxiety
- The illusion that everything’s fine—even when it’s not
Denial, from an Ayurvedic perspective, is often the nervous system’s attempt to avoid discomfort by floating above the truth.
Signs You’re Living in Denial (Vata Style)
- You stay “busy” to avoid facing your emotions
- You put everyone else’s needs before your own
- You numb out with scrolling, snacking, or multitasking
- You struggle to make decisions or follow through
- You avoid conversations, doctor visits, or financial reviews
- You feel stuck but can’t explain why
These are not weaknesses.
They’re signs your inner wind energy is spinning too fast—and pulling you away from your grounded truth.
The Mindset Shift: From Avoidance to Awareness
To move out of denial, you don’t need shame or force.
You need stability, stillness, and reconnection—everything Vata craves when it’s out of alignment.
Here’s your Ayurvedic path forward:
Step 1: Ground the Body
When you’re in denial, your mind is often flying high while your body feels like a stranger.
Come back home with these rituals:
- Abhyanga: Daily warm oil massage with sesame oil
- Eat grounding foods: Stews, root vegetables, oats, ghee, warm herbal teas
- Eliminate overstimulation: Reduce screen time, noise, and multitasking
- Connect to earth: Walk barefoot, sit under a tree, or garden
Grounded body = anchored mind.
Step 2: Create Space for Stillness
Vata thrives on movement but heals through ritualized stillness.
Even 5–10 minutes per day can change everything.
Try:
- Meditation with the mantra “So Hum”
- Alternate nostril breathing (Nadi Shodhana)
- Evening journaling: “What am I avoiding?” “What do I truly feel?”
Stillness invites truth to rise.
Step 3: Affirm Your Awareness
Affirmations are the antidote to Vata confusion. Use them to rewire your mind:
- “I see what is true, and I meet it with love.”
- “It is safe for me to be honest with myself.”
- “I choose clarity over confusion.”
- “I release avoidance and return to alignment.”
Write these down. Speak them out loud. Say them during your morning routine.
Step 4: Gently Face What You’ve Been Avoiding
This part is powerful. Begin to take one small step toward the thing you’ve been denying:
- Book the appointment
- Check your bank account
- Say the hard truth
- Ask for help
- Open the journal
Truth doesn’t break you, Queen—it builds you.
Ayurvedic Time Tip: When to Face the Truth
According to the Ayurvedic daily clock:
- Face challenging truths or make decisions between 10 a.m. and 2 p.m. (Pitta time) when mental fire is strongest
- Reflect, journal, and plan between 6–10 a.m. or p.m. (Kapha time) when energy is grounded
- Avoid major decisions during 2–6 p.m. (Vata time) when the mind may be more scattered
Working with nature’s rhythms = more flow, less fear.
Final Thoughts
Denial is a form of self-protection.
But what once protected you may now be preventing you from rising.
Ayurveda reminds us:
Healing begins with truth.
Clarity is the first step to reclaiming your bliss.
Call to Action:
If you’re ready to stop avoiding and start aligning—body, mind, and soul—then let’s walk this path together.
✨ Book your Ayurvedic Strategic Transformation (AST) Discovery Session today and let’s uncover what your heart already knows you’re ready for.
And don’t forget to pick up “365 Days of Affirmations for a Year of Bliss” on Amazon—because your truth deserves daily support.
It’s time to clear the fog, Fabby.
You’ve got a destiny to walk into.